Writers’ Block – Royalties are not Safe

Book income isn't safe

Book income isn’t safe.

The rules in our family system have often been created from experiences in the past, and then handed down through generations. More often than not, they are never challenged.

A number of those rules revolve around safety, and how to stay safe. And that includes how to create a safe income for your living.

Now, being a writer these days, with all the changes in the publishing landscape, means that you have to be an entrepreneur. Or a freelancer. You’re basically running a small, or not so small business, whether you like it or not. That’s true even if you’re traditionally published – because the publishers no longer do the marketing. You’re on your own there, and your success depends on your skills and efforts.

Now, if you’re traditionally published, money comes in about twice a year.  If you’re self-published, using Amazon and other resellers, money comes in every month, which does make things a little easier.

Either way, however, the income will be somewhat unpredictable.

As indie author, you have more influence on your sales and how well your books do, but even with good marketing, you can’t really predict fads, the next bestseller, or the direction a genre takes.

It is possible that your income actually goes down until you can pivot and react to market changes. At least as indie author you can do that. As a traditionally published author, that is much harder, since it usually takes about two years from contract to book release. By then, the fad your book is riding on might have disappeared.

Or Amazon changes its payout system like it did with Kindle Unlimited last year. Some authors were badly hit, others actually saw their earnings increase.

So as you can see, royalties do not necessarily create a safe, predictable income.

Which is where your safety programming through the family system comes in. If safety is important in your family system, you will be scared away from the insecure life of an author entrepreneur. Self-sabotage might easily happen.

Your family system could push you towards a day job, or keep you in it. You may never make the leap to full-time author with a rule like that in the back of your mind.

Unless you shift it.

Which is what I do with my clients.

Here’s some tapping that can get you started:

Even though my family has a rule about safe, regular income which doesn’t encourage us to become entrepreneurs, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to recognize that rule in our family.

Even though my family rules urge me to stay in my safe day job and treat writing as a hobby, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to shift that family rule.

Even though it feels really unsafe to rely on royalties as income, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to create an author business that is thriving and safe.

Your Turn:
What are your family rules about running a business?
Has one of those rules held you back?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you creating right now?
Would love to hear from you!

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PS: You’ll find my personal experiences with these beliefs in the comment section. Because I am tapping with these very sentences, I’m inviting you to join me on this journey, and share your experiences.

PPS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive that tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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Saturday Writing Prompt

What have we here?

Why would a heroine need a tree, a moon and a light bulb? Only you can tell that particular story.

Tree, Moon, Light Bulb

What is the tree whispering?

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Writers’ Block – Writing is not a Job

Writing is a Hobby

Writing is a Hobby

Our families have rules about everything. And of course, they have rules about how we’re supposed to earn money and make a living. There are traditions in the family which jobs to hold, and if you look closely at your family tree, you might easily see the patterns. In my family, most of my ancestors were teachers, state officials and housewives.

There is creative talent in my family. My grandfather, my mom and my sister are good at drawing or painting. My father is great at learning languages and on rare occasions allows his story-telling talent to shine. Having that kind of talent is nice – but for my family, it’s not a way of making a living. (I’m working to change that!)

Writing usually isn’t on the list of jobs open to family members.

Which means you have to break a family rule in order to be a full-time writer.

Unfortunately, we have strong safety programs that work hard to keep us within the boundaries set by the family system. You see, the family system is not about supporting you or making you happy. All it cares about is to hold the family together and maintain itself.

So you can choose to keep a day job and treat writing as a hobby and steer clear of the risk to alienate the family system.

And the ancient threat to make people obey the family rules is – Death.

As little babies we simply cannot survive on our own. We need the family in order to stay alive. Alienating the system would be suicidal. And this stark alternative powers our safety programs, quite subconsciously.

In my work as coach, I’ve seen unbelievable ways of self-sabotage, none of them consciously planned out. That’s how strong these urges are. So don’t blame yourself if you are prone to self-sabotage.

Look at the patterns in the family system.

Look at the rules.

Figure out where you are attempting to break them.

And once you know (and I can help you with this, having studied family systems for years), there is an almost magical solution: We can actually shift the family rules and align them with our dreams and goals. All it takes is awareness and EFT tapping.

Shift the family system rules and patterns.

I’ve done it many times with clients. You see, we’re influencing something energetic, the family system, with energy psychology. It’s a bit woo woo and hard to explain, but it works.

Here are my tapping phrases for you to try. And if you want more support, let me know.

Even though my family system only allows writing as a hobby, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to add writing to the job list of my family system.

Even though I’ve been self-sabotaging myself because being a full-time writer is very dangerous – I could be kicked out of the family for it – I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now shift the family rules to include writing as an accepted occupation.

Even though I’ve been subconsciously following the family rules and never did everything needed to become a full-time writer, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now add full-time writer to my family’s list of accepted jobs!

Your Turn:
Are you aware of self-sabotaging your writing?
Does this family rule resonate with you?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you creating right now?
Would love to hear from you!

Image Source: F. Moebius

PS: You’ll find my personal experiences with these beliefs in the comment section. Because I am tapping with these very sentences, I’m inviting you to join me on this journey, and share your experiences.

PPS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive that tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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Saturday Writing Prompt

Another mystery presented by the Story Cubes…

Time for your imagination to soar!

Bridge, Tent. Magnet

What lies behind the bridge?

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Writers’ Block – Can’t Show This to Mom

I can't show this to Mom!

I can’t show this to Mom!

Would you show your book to your mom or grandma?

Did I get you there? *winks*

I know how that feels. I’ve written scenes that I would hesitate to show my mother. You know what I mean. Those. Yeah.

Thing is, we put a lot of ourselves into our books. And for the villains, we need to look into our own dark sides. Then we can write them convincingly. Most people hide those dark sides. We use them.

But it’s not a lot of fun to imagine our close family getting to see those dark sides via our books. Letting them know we can imagine such horror. Or kink. Or simply letting them see how we make our characters suffer and our villains gloat. Which we do, there’s no doubt.

And at least I can hear them say, in my imagination:

How can you write this? Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Scared of the Haters

sad author

Sad author

We authors tend to pour a lot of ourselves into our books, even if they are non-fiction. And we’re rightfully proud of what we have created once we have a finished, edited manuscript, or even a finished book, ready to publish.

Until it’s time to show it to others.

Then doubt sets in. Is it good enough? Will they like it?

And that’s only the first level of exposure.

Consider Amazon, and the review feature. As published authors, we need reviews. The more, the better.

Except for the 1-star ones.

Those can make us cringe.

And then, there’s the internet’s hateful, misogynist, racist underbelly.

What if we win the publishing lottery and our book suddenly becomes famous? Will we get harassed like that? Receive hateful mail? Get trolled on Twitter?

This might seem to be over the top – not many authors gain that much fame. But this is a writer’s brain we’re talking about, and I know many of us can and do think that far ahead in a heartbeat. Continue reading

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Saturday Writing Prompt

Can you make sense of this?

I’m sure you can. You’re a writer, after all.

Tower, scarab and a worried face

What’s behind that tower and the scarab?

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Writers’ Block – My Book could Tank

Book sales

Book Sales

I firmly believe that being blocked from writing means that a safety program is working hard to protect you from feeling bad. Never mind that having Writers’ Block also feels bad.

This internal safety program has developed through past disappointments and fears. And it means there is something out there that could hurt you if you keep writing, and possibly finishing the book.

Now one of the things that really hurt writers is a book not doing well.

After all, you did put a lot of work, effort and probably heart blood into it. You gave it all. Spent hours writing it, editing it and making it as good as you possibly could. You hoped it would do well, maybe even be your breakout book.

So much could ride on that one book! Continue reading

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Saturday Writing Prompt

Once more the Story Cubes are challenging you!

What might be going on here behind the door??

Cane, key hole and footprint

Mystery behind a locked door?

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Writers’ Block: Must Write a Novel

doorstopper novel

Doorstopper Novel

With this post, we move into the realm of beliefs about your product: The STORY

First of all, many beginning writers I know believe they must write at least a novel. A real book. Something “big”. And a series is even better! Yes, even with stories, size seems to matter in a certain way.

For a while, especially in Fantasy, bigger was better, no questions asked. If not the single book, then the series. It had to be huge. Doorstoppers, at least three for a series, but five were better. Maybe even ten, or a dozen. Imagine the size of that world, the headcount of the cast and the number of subplots to fill that many pages… it’s daunting!

Bigger is better!

And then you have the other extreme: Short stories.

There isn’t a clear definition of length for short stories by word count – officially – but lengths of 2,000 to 7,500 words are commonly mentioned. It “should be readable in one sitting” is an informal definition. However, many, many magazines have word count limits for the short stories they accept, and those limits have gone down considerably in the last 20 years. I’ve seen several go below the 2,000 words that were the lower limit of actual short stories.

Flash fiction has become popular, including the  “drabble” (100 words) or even “Twit Fic”, confined to the 140 characters that Twitter allows. That’s about 23 words, btw. And I have seen stories told in such few words.

Shortest is best!

So how do we know? Continue reading

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