Tag Archives: family rules

Writers’ Block – Fame is Dangerous

Just the other day, I did some work on an ancestral line of my own, helped by a tapping friend. And while this might not strictly be a family system issue, it is quite possible that family rules are anchored … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Writing is not a Job

Our families have rules about everything. And of course, they have rules about how we’re supposed to earn money and make a living. There are traditions in the family which jobs to hold, and if you look closely at your … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No Fame!

Another family rule that might completely block your success as author is one about how visible we may be in society. Because visibility can be dangerous. Right now, we can see societies, where being different and visible is quite dangerous. … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No books!

Every family has rules about what its members can do. Let’s imagine Lee. Traditionally, the men in his family have been carpenters, bricklayers or other kinds of craft people. There is an unspoken rule in his family that this kind … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – Successful Outcast

Family system dynamics play a very important role for our success, as well. That’s because each individual family system has rules of its own. Rules that define who may be a member of the family, and who may not. How … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – I’m Loyal to Aunt Erna

Loyalty is a huge topic in family systems. We are always expressing it in a multitude of ways. In addition, the system demands loyalty to those family members who were wrongfully excluded. (Everyone belongs, that’s Family Rule #1.) So let’s … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – We don’t Need a Lot of Money

Here’s another family rule that might sound familiar: We don’t need a lot of money. I grew up with this one. It includes a ton of other unvoiced statements. We don’t need a lot of money because: – We are … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – I Must Not Earn More Than Daddy

Last week, I talked about the family system and how it can be harsh and uncaring as a system. And while that remains true, there is also a huge amount of love and loyalty within each family system. And that … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – My family will Hate me

We have explored beliefs about money and rich people. Now we’ll take the Money Experiment to yet another level: Family System Dynamics, or systemic family constellations. Let me quickly cover the basics: Each family is a little system in itself. … Continue reading

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How Family Rules Hurt your Bottom Line

Did you know that beliefs you probably learned as kid can influence your bottom line? No matter if you’re an writer, editor, entrepreneur or not – what you believe deep inside determines your way of life, including how much money … Continue reading

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