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Family System Dynamics – Law #3

Law #3 is all about balance, and that’s much less obvious than the last two laws. Basically, within a family system there has to be a balance between giving and taking. Once again, I’m going to use the mobile analogy: … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Law #2

Now that we know that every member of the family belongs to the family and the system, it’s time to move to the second law of family systems. This law is about order within the family. This means that every … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics for Writers

This new blog series is about family systems and how they affect you as a writer. The way I see it, knowing about family systems and their dynamics will help you be more successful by explaining and eliminating potential blocks … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Fame is Dangerous

Just the other day, I did some work on an ancestral line of my own, helped by a tapping friend. And while this might not strictly be a family system issue, it is quite possible that family rules are anchored … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Writing is not a Job

Our families have rules about everything. And of course, they have rules about how we’re supposed to earn money and make a living. There are traditions in the family which jobs to hold, and if you look closely at your … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No Fame!

Another family rule that might completely block your success as author is one about how visible we may be in society. Because visibility can be dangerous. Right now, we can see societies, where being different and visible is quite dangerous. … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No books!

Every family has rules about what its members can do. Let’s imagine Lee. Traditionally, the men in his family have been carpenters, bricklayers or other kinds of craft people. There is an unspoken rule in his family that this kind … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – Successful Outcast

Family system dynamics play a very important role for our success, as well. That’s because each individual family system has rules of its own. Rules that define who may be a member of the family, and who may not. How … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – I’m Loyal to Aunt Erna

Loyalty is a huge topic in family systems. We are always expressing it in a multitude of ways. In addition, the system demands loyalty to those family members who were wrongfully excluded. (Everyone belongs, that’s Family Rule #1.) So let’s … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – We don’t Need a Lot of Money

Here’s another family rule that might sound familiar: We don’t need a lot of money. I grew up with this one. It includes a ton of other unvoiced statements. We don’t need a lot of money because: – We are … Continue reading

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