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Family System Dynamics – The Burden

This is another concept practically unknown outside of family systems work: The Burden. Here’s how it works: When we are born into a family, we quickly become aware of all the emotions around us. All the energy swirling and engulfing … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – The Void

Going back to the Law #1 which states that everyone born into a family actually belongs to it (and adoption counts, as well), bad things happen when a family member is denied their space by other family members. An empty … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Ancestral Energy

Family systems encompass more than just your immediate family, ie. the one you grew up in or the one you live in now. In fact, those systems stretch back for generations, from grandparents to great-greats and beyond. Usually, however, the … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Law #3

Law #3 is all about balance, and that’s much less obvious than the last two laws. Basically, within a family system there has to be a balance between giving and taking. Once again, I’m going to use the mobile analogy: … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Law #2

Now that we know that every member of the family belongs to the family and the system, it’s time to move to the second law of family systems. This law is about order within the family. This means that every … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Law #1

The family system knows three “laws” as I like to call them, because these are firm and not flexible. Pretty much everything else are “guidelines”, but these three laws rule. Today, I’m going to talk about the first and most … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics for Writers

This new blog series is about family systems and how they affect you as a writer. The way I see it, knowing about family systems and their dynamics will help you be more successful by explaining and eliminating potential blocks … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Entanglement

Entanglements are some of the strangest effects within family system dynamics. They happen when a family member’s fate is not recognized and honored by the other family members. That fate is often tragic or traumatic – because only strong emotions … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Fame is Dangerous

Just the other day, I did some work on an ancestral line of my own, helped by a tapping friend. And while this might not strictly be a family system issue, it is quite possible that family rules are anchored … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Royalties are not Safe

The rules in our family system have often been created from experiences in the past, and then handed down through generations. More often than not, they are never challenged. A number of those rules revolve around safety, and how to … Continue reading

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