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Family System Dynamics – Law #3

Law #3 is all about balance, and that’s much less obvious than the last two laws. Basically, within a family system there has to be a balance between giving and taking. Once again, I’m going to use the mobile analogy: … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics – Law #2

Now that we know that every member of the family belongs to the family and the system, it’s time to move to the second law of family systems. This law is about order within the family. This means that every … Continue reading

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Family System Dynamics for Writers

This new blog series is about family systems and how they affect you as a writer. The way I see it, knowing about family systems and their dynamics will help you be more successful by explaining and eliminating potential blocks … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – Family Entanglement

For this last post about success and family system dynamics, I want to talk about one of the strangest things that can happen in family systems: Entanglement with another person in the system. You see, one of the fundamental rules … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – Successful Outcast

Family system dynamics play a very important role for our success, as well. That’s because each individual family system has rules of its own. Rules that define who may be a member of the family, and who may not. How … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – I’m Loyal to Aunt Erna

Loyalty is a huge topic in family systems. We are always expressing it in a multitude of ways. In addition, the system demands loyalty to those family members who were wrongfully excluded. (Everyone belongs, that’s Family Rule #1.) So let’s … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – We don’t Need a Lot of Money

Here’s another family rule that might sound familiar: We don’t need a lot of money. I grew up with this one. It includes a ton of other unvoiced statements. We don’t need a lot of money because: – We are … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – I Must Not Earn More Than Daddy

Last week, I talked about the family system and how it can be harsh and uncaring as a system. And while that remains true, there is also a huge amount of love and loyalty within each family system. And that … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – My family will Hate me

We have explored beliefs about money and rich people. Now we’ll take the Money Experiment to yet another level: Family System Dynamics, or systemic family constellations. Let me quickly cover the basics: Each family is a little system in itself. … Continue reading

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How Family Rules Hurt your Bottom Line

Did you know that beliefs you probably learned as kid can influence your bottom line? No matter if you’re an writer, editor, entrepreneur or not – what you believe deep inside determines your way of life, including how much money … Continue reading

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