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Family System Dynamics for Writers

This post (and the series it belongs to) is about family systems and how they affect you as a writer. The way I see it, knowing about family systems and their dynamics will help you be more successful by explaining … Continue reading

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Yes, You Can Write

This is a very, very basic issue, especially for writers but also for all creatives. Because very often, deep inside, we believe we can’t. It doesn’t even have to show or be obvious. But creativity doesn’t exactly get encouraged in … Continue reading

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EFT for Authors – Not Original Enough

I’m seeing this time and again. It crops up in author forums, in FB groups, even in some writing advice books. And I can see it driving authors to despair. My story isn’t original enough! It’s basically an expression of … Continue reading

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EFT for Authors – Daily Resistance

If you’re even a bit like me, there’s one obstacle you meet practically daily: that bit of resistance when you go to open your file or read what you wrote the day before and now need add new words. And … Continue reading

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Procrastination – Final Thoughts

I hope that with this series I’ve been able to show you that it’s negative emotions that underly most instances of procrastination. That’s how we try to protect ourselves from bad stuff – which in most cases isn’t even true. … Continue reading

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Procrastination – Fear of the Success Rat Race

What comes after a success? The next success, of course. Preferably one that tops the first one. The next bestseller. The next, even bigger award. More five-star reviews, more blogs, more, more, more… Better, bigger, even more awesome! And what … Continue reading

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Procrastination – Fear of being Seen

The Fear of being seen is another reason why we procrastinate and don’t finish stories, art projects, or other tasks. Because once we finish, our product needs to be seen. That book needs readers, that painting needs viewers, that piece … Continue reading

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Procrastination – Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a bit like the big brother of the fear of mistakes – the stakes, however, are much higher. You can’t allow a single blemish, because then it wouldn’t be perfect anymore. It takes enormous amounts of time and … Continue reading

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Procrastination – Fear of Mistakes

From this post on, we’re going to look at the reasons behind procrastination, and we’re starting with the obvious: Fear of doing something wrong. Now, rationally, we know that making an error isn’t a big thing, it’s usually a moment … Continue reading

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Conquer NaNoWriMo – Can I even do this?

Today is day 2 of NaNoWriMo. Maybe you struggled getting the necessary word count yesterday (1,667 words, btw.). Maybe, like me, you didn’t even make it that far. Maybe you already doubt you can do it again because it was … Continue reading

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