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Writers’ Block – Royalties are not Safe

The rules in our family system have often been created from experiences in the past, and then handed down through generations. More often than not, they are never challenged. A number of those rules revolve around safety, and how to … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Writing is not a Job

Our families have rules about everything. And of course, they have rules about how we’re supposed to earn money and make a living. There are traditions in the family which jobs to hold, and if you look closely at your … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Scared of the Haters

We authors tend to pour a lot of ourselves into our books, even if they are non-fiction. And we’re rightfully proud of what we have created once we have a finished, edited manuscript, or even a finished book, ready to … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Flow or C..p

As writers, we demand a lot of ourselves, and we hold expectations about how our writing has to happen. One of those is that we have to be in flow in order to produce beautiful sentences and paragraphs. That’s what … Continue reading

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Writers’ Block – Waiting for Inspiration

I’ve seen many, many writers who believe they need to be inspired in order to actually sit down and write. Or that they need inspiration to write a great piece of art. Here’s the tale of someone who things along … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – Family Entanglement

For this last post about success and family system dynamics, I want to talk about one of the strangest things that can happen in family systems: Entanglement with another person in the system. You see, one of the fundamental rules … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No Fame!

Another family rule that might completely block your success as author is one about how visible we may be in society. Because visibility can be dangerous. Right now, we can see societies, where being different and visible is quite dangerous. … Continue reading

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The Success Experiment – No books!

Every family has rules about what its members can do. Let’s imagine Lee. Traditionally, the men in his family have been carpenters, bricklayers or other kinds of craft people. There is an unspoken rule in his family that this kind … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – We don’t Need a Lot of Money

Here’s another family rule that might sound familiar: We don’t need a lot of money. I grew up with this one. It includes a ton of other unvoiced statements. We don’t need a lot of money because: – We are … Continue reading

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The Money Experiment – Money is Hard to Earn

We’ve all heard those phrases: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” “You gotta work hard, son.” And so on and so forth. I’m sure you’re familiar with them. And yet… that’s just another one of those beliefs we learn as kids. … Continue reading

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