You probably heard of the “Affluenza Kid”.
This young man caused the death of four people in a drunk driving accident. The judge sent him to in-house therapy rather than jail, giving him a 10 year probation. The reason behind this was that the kid was raised in such a way by his rich parents that he never learned to be responsible for his actions, and that he was suffering from “Affluenza”. And thus he needed therapy to learn how to be a responsible person. Except that he and his mother then fled to Mexico.
It made quite a stir, but it also illustrates a belief that many of us have: Rich people raise bad kids. Or spoiled kids. Entitled kids.
In fact, here in Germany, we have a saying about family businesses:
The founder builds it, the son stabilizes it, the grandson squanders it.
And maybe it is true that having seemingly unlimited amounts of money, and using it to “deal” with problems could create a belief that rules do not apply.
Of course, this doesn’t have to happen. I have listened to a millionaire talk about his kids, and how he teaches them to make their own decisions and live with the consequences. One of his daughters decided to go for an apprenticeship with a painter – and that was perfectly okay for him. She didn’t get any bonuses.
I’m sure his kids will turn out all right, because he put a lot of thought into raising them.
So maybe, this is just another limiting belief that could hold you back. Because I’m sure that if you have kids, you want them to become good, successful people, as well.
And being rich doesn’t mean you “have” to spoil them.
Here’s the tapping:
Even though it’s very clear that rich kids are spoiled rotten and turn into horrible people, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that maybe this happens because of the parents and not because of the money.
Even though I have learned that all rich kids are horrible, spoiled and entitled, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that this is not a law of nature.
Even though I am worried about my kids and want them to turn out well, and that’s possibly why I’ve refused to become rich on some level, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to become rich and still raise wonderful kids.
What do you think about spoiled kids?
What does being rich do to families?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you writing right now?
Would love to hear from you!
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Dear Frauke, I agree with you in many ways. I saw this happen in Mozambique. From being a very poor country with two different wars that ended in 1992, the new-rich-parents want their children to have everything that they themselves did not have. They seldom or never visits the countryside where the poor people live, as that reminds them to much about their own suffering in the old times. Today, in the capital, many of these new rich kids falls into the drug-trap as Mozambique is one of the big transit-countries for drugs. Some of the parents succeed to send their kids abroad to study, and they are the ones that comes back with fresh eyes trying to do something for their country. But the poor kids, even if gifted, seldom get that chance. Not yet anyway. But Im optimistic, as 49% of the 23 million people are under 15 years of age, something will happen. The majority of the young ones try to organize themselves and there is a constant networking going on. I do believe in Mozambique, but the wounds must heal and the new-rich-parents must wake up.
thank you for your comment and perspective.
It is very understandable that parents want the best for their children, and forget that children need boundaries and limits. That they need ways to learn compassion and empathy. And if children get everything they want, they can become spoiled and sometimes dangerous.
I hope that Mozambique will recover and develop into a prospering nation.