As writers, we compare ourselves to other writers. How much do they write? How well do they write? What’s their Amazon sales rank? And of course, there is always someone who is doing better, who is writing more and who is publishing more.
As humans, we do the same. We see others who are slimmer, fitter or richer than we are. Who seem happier, more famous or even more liked than ourselves.
And it makes us feel small, lazy and like a failure.
In fact, comparing ourselves to others is just not a good idea. Except we’re used to it and have been programmed to do so ever since school grades and sports events entered our lives.
Maybe you were taught to be competitive, to be better than others, and maybe you live to rise to the top. There’s nothing wrong with it if it feels good and bring out your strength.
But most of the time, comparing ourselves to others feels bad and brings us down. And in truth, it’s not fair to ourselves, either.
Because the only person we can really, truly compare ourselves to is how and who we were a month ago. Or a year ago. Or five years ago. Because we are unique and live in unique conditions. We are individuals – and everyone’s circumstances are different.
So take a good look at where you were a year ago, and then acknowledge your growth, your successes and learning. And then celebrate and keep growing.
Here are some EFT set-up phrases to help you shed this old, depressing habit of comparing:
Even though I learned in school that I have to be better than others, because we would get grades and being at the bottom really hurt, I’m okay the way I am and I’m open to the possibility that I can be just as competitive and strong when I only compare myself to myself.
Even though I thought that comparing myself to others would being out my competitive streak, but most often I ended up feeling bad, I’m okay the way I am and I can see myself choosing to let go of comparisons.
Even though comparing myself to others and worrying about Amazon rank and my writing has become almost second nature, I’m okay the way I am, and I now choose to take a deep breath, to stop comparing and to be my authentic self.
How does that feel? Let me know in the comments.
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PS: If you want to go deeper and feel better and more confident about yourself, I can support you. Drop me an email and we’ll work out the details.