EFT for Authors – Not Original Enough

Not original enough

Not original enough

I’m seeing this time and again. It crops up in author forums, in FB groups, even in some writing advice books. And I can see it driving authors to despair.

My story isn’t original enough!

It’s basically an expression of self-doubt. It’s a sense that you as author are not valuable if you cannot produce something extraordinary, exclusively new and fascinating.

It’s also a limiting belief and falling for a myth. It may even be an excuse, but that’s rare.

Here’s the thing:

Humans have been telling stories for millennia. Seriously. We’ve been sitting around campfires and inside caves, and later in huts and houses, and even later in theatres and amphitheatres – and creating and listening to stories.

And I honestly believe that every story has been told already, in a way. In fact, there are people postulating there are only a limited number of potential story arcs. (Check out Christopher Booker, “The Seven Basic Plots: Why we tell stories”, for example.)

 

So there are no new stories. There are only new ways of telling them.

Don’t believe me? Still feel terrible about your story idea? Start tapping.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I was taught that a story must be original, and I believed them, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to unlearn that old belief.

Even though I always thought that originality was very important, and I strive to put that into my stories, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to changing that to individuality.

Even though I thought that every artist must be original, fresh and extraordinary, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to recognize this as a limiting belief – and let it go.

Asking you:
Do you have that problem?
What makes your story uniquely yours?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – When characters misbehave

Misbehaving character

Misbehaving character

Sooner or later, this is going to happen to every author, unless you meticulously plan your novel and map it all out. (How much fun is that?)

But if you’re even a bit like me and partly write for the wonderful feel of discovering a tale, your characters will surprise you one day.

Characters will misbehave

I’ve had characters shift from evil villain to supportive ally. I’ve had side characters stamp their foot and demand their own story. I’ve had allies turn into enemies, unexpectedly, throwing quite a monkey wrench into my plot.

And I love it.

But of course, this kind of real life twist can cause a lot of anger, frustration and even self-doubt. It can totally throw your story off the rails, and that’s a bummer.

At least at first.

Let me show you in the video how to turn this around.

 

Because really, this is a mindset issue.

And there is no better tool I know for shifting mindset than EFT tapping. And just in case you need a bit of help to work through this on your own, here are some suggestions.

Tapping phrases

Even though I’m so angry that my character is misbehaving and not doing what she is supposed to do, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that this is simply a sign to take a closer look at the story.

Even though it’s so annoying that my character has other ideas than what I planned, and I hate him acting out, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release those negative emotions and take a good look at what this means.

Even though it’s so utterly frustrating when a character goes and casually destroys my entire plot, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to feel amused and take this information to make the story even better.

Asking you:
What’s the worst thing one of your characters did?
What was the biggest surprise in one of your stories?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Help, I’m stuck!

I'm stuck!

I’m stuck!

It’s basically inevitable: The day will roll around where you as author will get stuck in your writing.

Maybe your main character doesn’t want to follow your plot line. Maybe the villain decides to become a good person. Maybe your throw-away bar lady insists on getting involved.

Maybe you simply don’t know how to continue with the scene or how to jump into the next sentence, or wind up that particular chapter.

No matter how it happens, the feeling is always the same: ARGH!

I’ve been there many, many times in the last 18 years…

Now, there are ways to tap the precise situation that causes the stuckness. I’ll get to that. But before you get down to the nitty-gritty, it’s totally worth to try a more general approach before that.

Which means focusing on the feelings.

I’ll teach you how to do this in the video.

 

Now, there is no feeling that you’re “supposed” to feel. It’s all individual, and it’s all okay. If you have a green, icky blob in your stomach when you feel stuck – take it and run with it! Use that in your tapping. And play with the words. Make it fun, if you can. Curse like hell if you can’t. Be yourself.

EFT is wonderfully flexible. One reason why I love it so much.

Even so, if you feel insecure or have little experience with tapping, start with these phrases. Change what doesn’t fit you and experiment. All the best!

Tapping phrases:

Even though it feels so horrible and ARGH to be stuck like that, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to let go of all the frustration, panic and anger, and give my writer brain some slack to figure out the problem.

Even though I feel so terribly stuck and it’s making me all upset and angry and stressed, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release all those emotions, to take some time-out and let my writer brain figure this one out.

Even though I utterly hate feeling stuck like this, and it’s frustrating as hell, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to relax, to release the emotions and give my writer brain permission to figure this stuff out.

Asking you:
When was the last time you got stuck?
What was the most intense emotion?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Permission to Write

Permission

Permission

Time and again, I run into people who dream of being an author. Who dream of writing books, telling stories or teaching in a non-fiction book.

And yet, they don’t.

When we dig deeper, there is one common theme (there are more, but let’s focus on that one today):

They are not allowed.

At some point in their lives, they picked up the belief that they, personally, do not have permission to be a writer. Or create books, let alone publish them.

For today, it doesn’t matter where they picked up that belief. Or who installed it in their mind. Or which family system rule is blocking their dream.

All that matters is the feeling – that “knowledge” that they cannot be authors.

In the video, I’m talking about how to release that belief, and how to get permission to be a writer, author and creator anyway.

 

I’m going to repeat it here in writing:

You have permission to be an author.

There. Listen to that. Hear it in your mind. And then go forth and write. (And let me know about it! I love hearing your stories.)

And if that’s not enough, here are some tapping phrases to get you started.

Tapping Phrases:

Even though I feel  need permission before I can become a writer or an author, I’m okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to do what I love.

Even though I was taught somehow, that being a writer is something forbidden, at least for me, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to know that I’m old enough to make that decision myself now.

Even though I picked up that belief as a kid, that I’m not allowed to be an author, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release that old, terrible belief.

Asking you:
Do you need permission to be a writer?
Do you remember where that came from?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Daily Resistance

Resistance

Resistance

If you’re even a bit like me, there’s one obstacle you meet practically daily: that bit of resistance when you go to open your file or read what you wrote the day before and now need add new words.

And even though I lack personal experience, it might be the same when you pick up your brush or your pencil, or start mixing clay for your pottery. If not, awesome!

However, if you are familiar with that little moment of hesitation of resistance, check out my video. I’m telling you there what to look for and how to tap it away, so you can focus on your creative endeavor.

 

I truly believe that adding a tapping round, or something as simple as a round of “hold and breathe” to your pre-writing ritual can make things much easier in the daily run of things.

And if you want some guidance, here are some tapping phrases to get you started with an EFT round of your own.

Tapping Phrases:

Even though I feel such annoying resistance when I open my file and plan to write, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to releasing that resistance and finding joy in my writing.

Even though it’s so frustrating to run into this resistance all the time when I just want to write, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to release that resistance and enjoy my writing time.

Even though I hate feeling this resistance, my writing should be fun and easy, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release that resistance and everything connected to it, and have fun with my writing.

Asking you:
Are you familiar with that resistance?
Where in your body can you feel it?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Introduction

Book

Book

Some of you already know that I don’t just do EFT, I also write books. Book full of adventure, with dragons, unicorns or even whales. I love creating worlds. I do so under a pen name, however.

Now, writing is definitely a passion for me, just as EFT is. And I have discovered that using EFT for my writing is a win-win combo. Which is why I present my new series:

EFT for Authors

Why is that such a good idea?

Because writing deals with emotion, quite simply. And emotion is something EFT can handle extremely well. It can help both to get out of negative emotions, as well as reducing stress and opening up for positive emotion.

And of course, being an author in today’s world of publishing brings its own challenges and heartache.

Let me explain more in the video:

 

And if you are still on the fence about the notion of adding EFT to your author (and businesswoman) tool-chest, I have some suggestions for you.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I don’t believe EFT will help me with all this author stuff, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to giving it a try.

Even though I can’t quite believe that a little bit of tapping could help me with my writing troubles, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to experiment with it.

Even though EFT is just some silly tapping and I can’t quite believe it can make a difference, I’m still okay the way I am, and I now choose to give it a try…

Asking you:
How are you doing with your writing?
Have you used EFT to make it easier already?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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Permission for EFT to Work

Permission

Permission

If you’ve watched all those videos from the last few weeks, I really hope you’re trying out EFT tapping and throwing it at any little trouble life is giving you.

Chances are, however, that it’s not working all the time.

That’s actually normal.

Fortunately, I can reassure you that there are any number of tricks you can use to make EFT work, even then.

One of my favorite ones involves giving yourself permission for EFT to make a difference.

Permission for EFT to work

That’s right. It sounds illogical, but it’s not really. Because even if you want to change something, some parts of you are not yet willing to. With that permission, you make it easier for yourself, and you open a door for EFT to be the effective tool that it can be.

More about that in the video:

 

Of course, this is not the only trick and there are often several layers of resistance when working with EFT.

One way of working around them is to start small and tap on little issues that can be resolved with few consequences. This way, you get used to tapping on issues, your mind and body get used to having results, and then you can start applying it to bigger issues.

(This is not how I work with clients, btw. I tend to tackled the big things with my clients, and leave the little stuff for them – my sessions are too valuable to waste on little stuff.)

And of course, you can do some tapping rounds on allowing EFT to work, as well.

Tapping phrases

Even though I feel that this bit of tapping can’t really shift my problem, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission for it to work anyway.

Even though a part of me thinks that EFT is just mumbo-jumbo, how can it help my problems with just some simple tapping, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to let EFT work anyway.

Even though this tapping seems to be so simple and too banal to actually work, I’m still okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to let it work and help me anyway.

Asking you:
Do you still find it difficult to tap?
How does it feel to give yourself permission to let EFT work?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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How to Find your Focus Quickly

Can't find your focus?

Can’t Find your Focus?

Yesterday, when I had to set up my German blog post, I ran into a problem you might be familiar with:

I had been immersed in writing a story. I had also read a story which utterly captured my heart. And I was vibrating with those exciting emotions, editing, plotting and having fun wearing my writing hat.

And suddenly, I had to switch over and wear my coaching hat. I needed to come up with a topic to write about, with a looming deadline. (Yes, I could be more organized…)

So I turned to EFT. It is my default help system, after all.

And I did what I will teach you in the video below, using the EFT points for a very quick intervention that did the trick. In fact, I wrote that blog post in record time.

Here it is:

 

Now, you need to adapt the words to your situation and needs, obviously. But it is a nifty little trick to know.

If you want to use a more conventional tapping round, here you go:

Tapping phrases

Even though I just can’t focus on this new task, I’m still stuck in something else, I am okay the way I am, and I now choose to make the switch easy.

Even though I hate being emotionally stuck in an old task when I need to focus on something new, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to leave the old task behind and switch easily.

Even though it’s so hard to let go of the old task, it was so much fun to do, and now I have to do something much less fun, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to make that switch and get that task done.

Asking you:
Do you still find it difficult to tap?
Can you imagine having fun with those tapping rounds?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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The Best Words for Tapping – The Tapping Round

Words for the tapping round

Words for the Tapping Round

Now you know how to create set-up phrases, and you know what points to tap on, which means it is time for the final bit of information you need to get result with EFT tapping:

What to say in the tapping round?

Now, you already have your set-up statement which gives you words about your issue, as well as the direction of the desired shift, so you’re ready to start.

I like to do three to four rounds right through the tapping points before checking in with myself and seeing what has shifted.

In the video, I explain how I use those different rounds and how I process through them.

 

So basically, you go through your rounds this way:

Round 1: Focus on your issue and the feelings this causes you.
Round 2: Lay the ground work for the intended and desired shift
Round 3: Consolidate the shift

Then you check in with yourself again, and start a complete new round with a fresh bunch of set-up statements.

EFT is awesome to create shifts, it’s wonderful to release old issues and negative emotions. I want to encourage you to tap and make your life easier. But please, also honor yourself and get help if you want to work through deeper issues. Sometimes, it’s easier and safer to have someone guide you through these rounds.

Now, if you are still worried about finding the right words, I have a few set-up phrases for you.

Tapping phrases

Even though I feel so insecure about what to say during the tapping round, I’m okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to experiment and follow my inspiration.

Even though I worry about saying the right things during a tapping round, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to follow those steps and keep experimenting.

Even though I’m afraid of saying the wrong things during a tapping round, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release that fear and practice tapping.

Asking you:
Do you still find it difficult to tap?
Can you imagine having fun with those tapping rounds?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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The Best Words for Tapping – The Tapping Points

Which Points

Which Points?

Now that you know all about creating a set-up phrase, it’s time to teach you the tapping points. Those are acupuncture points you’ll tap while working through a tapping round.

You have probably seen pictures of them, or maybe you even read my tapping guide that comes with signing up for my newsletter. Even so, I want to show them to you in video, because it’s always easier to mimic someone than imagining what you see on paper.

In addition, I’ll show you a nifty way to tap without calling attention to yourself, as well as a nice, meditating way to release stress.

 

I hope this video will also help you go through the tapping rounds I send out with my newsletter. And if you have any questions, feel free to post them in a comment below or drop me an email.

If there’s still fear around getting this tapping wrong, here are some set-up phrases that might help you get around that. Because learning how to tap and doing it for the low-level issues yourself can be a huge help.

Tapping phrases

Even though I still worry about doing that EFT tapping right and hitting the right points in the right way, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to let go of that fear and simply tap.

Even though I still worry about making mistakes with that tapping stuff and getting it wrong, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to play with it and let go of that worry.

Even though it seems so difficult to get those points and all those words right, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to learn this tapping stuff and use it for myself.

Asking you:
Do you find it difficult to tap?
Can you imagine choosing that phrase with joy?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

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