EFT for Authors – Where to Begin?

Where to begin?

Where to begin?

That does seem a bit of a silly question, right?

Of course, a story starts at the beginning. Where else would it start?

But where exactly is that? Is it at “Adam and Eve”? Or at “Let there be Light”? Or is it with the creation of the magical artifact that will dominate your story and that happened thousands of years ago?

Here’s what not to do:

I once read a fantasy novel (whose author shall remain nameless, he’s a nice guy) where the main character took a tour of the fantasy word for several chapters before the action even started.

Granted, that might not happen in other genres, but I know it’s not always easy to determine where a story actually takes off.

So where does the story start?

Hint: It’s when the action starts. More about that in the video.
(Sorry about the low quality. I’m working on improving that.)

 

And if you’re still not sure, that’s okay. You can always change things around, add chapters and edit. But you must start your story somewhere, and then keep going.

Here’s some tapping to help you make that decision.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I really don’t know where to start my story, there is so much to my world, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to start where the action starts.

Even though I find it so hard to figure out where the beginning is, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to put the world into the story and not the other way around.

Even though I really worry about finding the right point to start the story, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to choose the spot where the action starts and feel good about that.

Asking you:
Do you write every day?
How much do you rely in inspiration or the muse?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

And no. I will never use that email to send you anything other than my newsletter.

PPS: There is a roundabout way to my newsletter that’ll give you something really neat: an email series called “30 Days Daily Writing Habit” which is free. If you sign up for that, you’re automatically added to my newsletter, as well. (And you can always unsubscribe.)

PPPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Beginner’s Block

I don't know how!

I don’t know how!

It’s never easy to begin something new.

Which is also very true for authors setting out to write their first story or novel. Many simply don’t know how.

But they put pressure on themselves, trying to come up with the next big American novel, or the next urban fantasy bestseller or the new Romance fad.

And they panic because they simple have no idea how to do it.

They don’t know HOW.

Of course, I’m not talking about how to use a word processor or even writing on a legal pad. No, what I mean, they know very little about creating characters, setting up a plot, managing tension, building  a story – and that is perfectly normal!

They’ve never done it. How could they know?

Because you don’t learn how to write from Writing Guides. Those can describe the building blocks. And they can be a bit of help. (Although I don’t usually recommend any.)

Writing is very much a craft, and as a beginner, people start out as apprentices. If they are lucky, the have studied their preferred genre and read a lot. That is always my recommendation, btw. Read a LOT.

A beginner who wants to be an author has only one, simple choice:

Start writing.

In the video, I’ll talk about the most important mindset shift you need to do well with your first story.

 

I know authors who spent years (and some even decades) writing and rewriting their novel. The number of drafts often reaches double-digits.

Don’t do that.

Finish your novel, back it up, and let it go for a while. Start your second novel.

If you’re really brave, go back to the first one after six months, and read it again. If you still think it’s good, edit it, send it to test readers and get their feedback. (No, family doesn’t count.) Make choices about the feedback, edit again, send it to an editor – and if you’re very brave, publish it.

And keep writing. This way, you’ll get more novels under your belt, and you’ll move from apprentice to journeyman, and with luck, eventually, to your first master piece. But it’ll only happen if you actually write.

So start writing now.

If that still feels too daunting, and you still feel bad about not knowing how, try some tapping.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I don’t know how to write a story and that’s holding me back, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to write that shitty first draft.

Even though I so want to write the story but I’m scared because I don’t know how, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to make it fun when I write it anyway.

Even though the story is trying to burst out of my head, but I’m too scared to be an author, after I all, I know nothing about writing – but I’m still okay the way I am, and I now choose to enjoy learning all about this writing!

Asking you:
Do you write every day?
How much do you rely in inspiration or the muse?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

And no. I will never use that email to send you anything other than my newsletter.

PPS: There is a roundabout way to my newsletter that’ll give you something really neat: an email series called “30 Days Daily Writing Habit” which is free. If you sign up for that, you’re automatically added to my newsletter, as well. (And you can always unsubscribe.)

PPPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Waiting for the Muse

Waiting for the Muse

Waiting for the Muse

I know quite a number of authors who wait for inspiration. Who wait for the muse to kiss them. Who are waiting for the one flash of genius that will inspire them to write this century’s next great novel. (Yes, I’m exaggerating… somewhat.)

The biggest problem with this kind of mindset is this:

They are still waiting, and not writing.

And that’s terrible, I think.

You see, waiting for inspiration does not really work. It does not get books written. And it builds frustration and regret – and makes writers give up.

In fact, the very opposite is true: Write, and inspiration will come.

I’ll talk some more about that in the video.

 

And know that I’m talking from experience. I’ve had times where I wrote like mad for weeks (sometimes months), and ideas were just tumbling over each other.

And the writing and the ideas dried up when I chose to focus on coaching instead. When I only wrote when an idea was utterly irresistible. Unfortunately, without regular writing, those ideas dried up quickly.

I changed that at the beginning of June, by making the decision to write 1,000 words every day. That’s actually not much of a committment – I can write 1k words in about 30 minutes – but it was difficult to really do that every single day, especially in the first week or two.

In those four weeks since that decision, I have written 28,000 words. More than in the three months before that combined.

Also, something marvellous is happening: I’ve been writing much more for the last three days, by developing my writing habit even further. I made it more fun – by using a laptop, turning off WiFi and going away from my desktop.

It’s been incredibly satisfying to watch my stories grow, to be close to my characters and familiar with the world – you can only get that through regular visits. And let me tell you, it’s wonderful.

Creating a daily writing habit is absolutely key for productivity. It’s the best thing you can do for your journey as an author.

And if you’re still in doubt,  here’s some tapping.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I thought that a writer must be inspired to write, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to know that writing begets inspiration.

Even though I’ve always waited for my muse, and it’s been frustrating and unproductive, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now chose to turn this around and write anyway.

Even though I always believed that writing without inspiration would only result in crap, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m giving myself permission to try this daily writing thing.

Asking you:
Do you write every day?
How much do you rely in inspiration or the muse?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

And no. I will never use that email to send you anything other than my newsletter.

PPS: There is a roundabout way to my newsletter that’ll give you something really neat: an email series called “30 Days Daily Writing Habit” which is free. If you sign up for that, you’re automatically added to my newsletter, as well. (And you can always unsubscribe.)

PPPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – I Hate Marketing!

Buy my book!

Buy. My. Book.

Sadly, books don’t sell themselves.

I know. I know. They really should.

A good book should find its audience easily, it should impress readers and make them rave about it. And send them scurrying to buy more books by you, and make you rich. Right?

And it can.

Thing is… people have to find out that your book exists before all that exciting stuff can happen.

And that is where marketing comes in.

Yes. That dreadful word. That sleazy word. That horror.

Because most marketing we’re exposed to is horrible. It’s as simple as that. We all know those authors on FB and Twitter who post nothing but BUY. MY. BOOK. *sigh*

You hate it. I hate it. Everyone hates it.

The trick is not to do that. Instead, we can do something else.

And I’ll tell you in the video.

 

So yes, this takes some brains and some creativity. Which you have, since you’re an author. You got this. All you need to do is think outside of the box, and stop doing what you’ve seen “everyone else” do.

And here’s some tapping to help you get really creative in  how you tell people about your books.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I utterly dread marketing, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that talking about my book can be fun.

Even though I hate having to market – my book should sell on its own! – I’m still okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to make marketing fun.

Even though I can’t really imagine pushing my books on people, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to make this stuff fun and entertaining – and enjoy it myself!

Asking you:
How do you feel about marketing?
What would you like to share about your book? (No ads – Ahem!)
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

And no. I will never use that email to send you anything other than my newsletter.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Not Original Enough

Not original enough

Not original enough

I’m seeing this time and again. It crops up in author forums, in FB groups, even in some writing advice books. And I can see it driving authors to despair.

My story isn’t original enough!

It’s basically an expression of self-doubt. It’s a sense that you as author are not valuable if you cannot produce something extraordinary, exclusively new and fascinating.

It’s also a limiting belief and falling for a myth. It may even be an excuse, but that’s rare.

Here’s the thing:

Humans have been telling stories for millennia. Seriously. We’ve been sitting around campfires and inside caves, and later in huts and houses, and even later in theatres and amphitheatres – and creating and listening to stories.

And I honestly believe that every story has been told already, in a way. In fact, there are people postulating there are only a limited number of potential story arcs. (Check out Christopher Booker, “The Seven Basic Plots: Why we tell stories”, for example.)

 

So there are no new stories. There are only new ways of telling them.

Don’t believe me? Still feel terrible about your story idea? Start tapping.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I was taught that a story must be original, and I believed them, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to unlearn that old belief.

Even though I always thought that originality was very important, and I strive to put that into my stories, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to changing that to individuality.

Even though I thought that every artist must be original, fresh and extraordinary, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to recognize this as a limiting belief – and let it go.

Asking you:
Do you have that problem?
What makes your story uniquely yours?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – When characters misbehave

Misbehaving character

Misbehaving character

Sooner or later, this is going to happen to every author, unless you meticulously plan your novel and map it all out. (How much fun is that?)

But if you’re even a bit like me and partly write for the wonderful feel of discovering a tale, your characters will surprise you one day.

Characters will misbehave

I’ve had characters shift from evil villain to supportive ally. I’ve had side characters stamp their foot and demand their own story. I’ve had allies turn into enemies, unexpectedly, throwing quite a monkey wrench into my plot.

And I love it.

But of course, this kind of real life twist can cause a lot of anger, frustration and even self-doubt. It can totally throw your story off the rails, and that’s a bummer.

At least at first.

Let me show you in the video how to turn this around.

 

Because really, this is a mindset issue.

And there is no better tool I know for shifting mindset than EFT tapping. And just in case you need a bit of help to work through this on your own, here are some suggestions.

Tapping phrases

Even though I’m so angry that my character is misbehaving and not doing what she is supposed to do, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that this is simply a sign to take a closer look at the story.

Even though it’s so annoying that my character has other ideas than what I planned, and I hate him acting out, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release those negative emotions and take a good look at what this means.

Even though it’s so utterly frustrating when a character goes and casually destroys my entire plot, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to feel amused and take this information to make the story even better.

Asking you:
What’s the worst thing one of your characters did?
What was the biggest surprise in one of your stories?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Help, I’m stuck!

I'm stuck!

I’m stuck!

It’s basically inevitable: The day will roll around where you as author will get stuck in your writing.

Maybe your main character doesn’t want to follow your plot line. Maybe the villain decides to become a good person. Maybe your throw-away bar lady insists on getting involved.

Maybe you simply don’t know how to continue with the scene or how to jump into the next sentence, or wind up that particular chapter.

No matter how it happens, the feeling is always the same: ARGH!

I’ve been there many, many times in the last 18 years…

Now, there are ways to tap the precise situation that causes the stuckness. I’ll get to that. But before you get down to the nitty-gritty, it’s totally worth to try a more general approach before that.

Which means focusing on the feelings.

I’ll teach you how to do this in the video.

 

Now, there is no feeling that you’re “supposed” to feel. It’s all individual, and it’s all okay. If you have a green, icky blob in your stomach when you feel stuck – take it and run with it! Use that in your tapping. And play with the words. Make it fun, if you can. Curse like hell if you can’t. Be yourself.

EFT is wonderfully flexible. One reason why I love it so much.

Even so, if you feel insecure or have little experience with tapping, start with these phrases. Change what doesn’t fit you and experiment. All the best!

Tapping phrases:

Even though it feels so horrible and ARGH to be stuck like that, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to let go of all the frustration, panic and anger, and give my writer brain some slack to figure out the problem.

Even though I feel so terribly stuck and it’s making me all upset and angry and stressed, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release all those emotions, to take some time-out and let my writer brain figure this one out.

Even though I utterly hate feeling stuck like this, and it’s frustrating as hell, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to relax, to release the emotions and give my writer brain permission to figure this stuff out.

Asking you:
When was the last time you got stuck?
What was the most intense emotion?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Permission to Write

Permission

Permission

Time and again, I run into people who dream of being an author. Who dream of writing books, telling stories or teaching in a non-fiction book.

And yet, they don’t.

When we dig deeper, there is one common theme (there are more, but let’s focus on that one today):

They are not allowed.

At some point in their lives, they picked up the belief that they, personally, do not have permission to be a writer. Or create books, let alone publish them.

For today, it doesn’t matter where they picked up that belief. Or who installed it in their mind. Or which family system rule is blocking their dream.

All that matters is the feeling – that “knowledge” that they cannot be authors.

In the video, I’m talking about how to release that belief, and how to get permission to be a writer, author and creator anyway.

 

I’m going to repeat it here in writing:

You have permission to be an author.

There. Listen to that. Hear it in your mind. And then go forth and write. (And let me know about it! I love hearing your stories.)

And if that’s not enough, here are some tapping phrases to get you started.

Tapping Phrases:

Even though I feel  need permission before I can become a writer or an author, I’m okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to do what I love.

Even though I was taught somehow, that being a writer is something forbidden, at least for me, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to know that I’m old enough to make that decision myself now.

Even though I picked up that belief as a kid, that I’m not allowed to be an author, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release that old, terrible belief.

Asking you:
Do you need permission to be a writer?
Do you remember where that came from?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Daily Resistance

Resistance

Resistance

If you’re even a bit like me, there’s one obstacle you meet practically daily: that bit of resistance when you go to open your file or read what you wrote the day before and now need add new words.

And even though I lack personal experience, it might be the same when you pick up your brush or your pencil, or start mixing clay for your pottery. If not, awesome!

However, if you are familiar with that little moment of hesitation of resistance, check out my video. I’m telling you there what to look for and how to tap it away, so you can focus on your creative endeavor.

 

I truly believe that adding a tapping round, or something as simple as a round of “hold and breathe” to your pre-writing ritual can make things much easier in the daily run of things.

And if you want some guidance, here are some tapping phrases to get you started with an EFT round of your own.

Tapping Phrases:

Even though I feel such annoying resistance when I open my file and plan to write, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to releasing that resistance and finding joy in my writing.

Even though it’s so frustrating to run into this resistance all the time when I just want to write, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to release that resistance and enjoy my writing time.

Even though I hate feeling this resistance, my writing should be fun and easy, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to release that resistance and everything connected to it, and have fun with my writing.

Asking you:
Are you familiar with that resistance?
Where in your body can you feel it?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

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PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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EFT for Authors – Introduction

Book

Book

Some of you already know that I don’t just do EFT, I also write books. Book full of adventure, with dragons, unicorns or even whales. I love creating worlds. I do so under a pen name, however.

Now, writing is definitely a passion for me, just as EFT is. And I have discovered that using EFT for my writing is a win-win combo. Which is why I present my new series:

EFT for Authors

Why is that such a good idea?

Because writing deals with emotion, quite simply. And emotion is something EFT can handle extremely well. It can help both to get out of negative emotions, as well as reducing stress and opening up for positive emotion.

And of course, being an author in today’s world of publishing brings its own challenges and heartache.

Let me explain more in the video:

 

And if you are still on the fence about the notion of adding EFT to your author (and businesswoman) tool-chest, I have some suggestions for you.

Tapping Phrases

Even though I don’t believe EFT will help me with all this author stuff, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to giving it a try.

Even though I can’t quite believe that a little bit of tapping could help me with my writing troubles, I’m still totally okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to experiment with it.

Even though EFT is just some silly tapping and I can’t quite believe it can make a difference, I’m still okay the way I am, and I now choose to give it a try…

Asking you:
How are you doing with your writing?
Have you used EFT to make it easier already?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – are you using tapping with your writing?
Please share in a comment.

Image Source: F. Moebius

PS: My newsletter contains a full tapping round to go with my blog posts, so it’ll be easier for you to get results. Sign up through the form on the upper right hand corner, and receive an introduction to EFT as a gift, find that specific tapping round plus occasional special offers. If you’re on a mobile and can’t see the sidebar, you can sign up through this link: Newsletter Sign-up.

PPS: For those of you who are curious, you can find my books here: Hannah Steenbock

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