Now it is summer, and for us writers, the distractions multiply: Kids at home, summer activities, invitations, garden work, maybe canning – it’s endless.
And all of it usually takes a toll on our writing.
It’s hard to say no, when you have to explain you want to write. It’s even harder if you don’t have a dedicated writing space, because that seems to make you available all the time.
But what it all boils down to is how you see your writing in your own mind.
How important is writing for you?
Is it a hobby that you do when everyone else’s demands and expectations are met?
Or is it your business, and sitting down to write is the equivalent of going to work?
You need to be clear in your own mind.
And it is a choice only you can make. Not your partner. Not your kids. Not your parents. And not your friends.
The distractions just serve to make the decision more urgent.
Thing is: The moment you decide that writing is your business, and that you’ll put in a certain amount of work into it every day no matter what – it gets much easier to say “no”.
And if you’re clear inside, that “no” will have a force and strength to it that even kids can respect. It becomes something that friends admire. It will carve out that space for you.
If you go the other way, and declare writing a hobby, or that you’ll take a summer break, that’s just as fine. Because then you won’t have to feel guilty about enjoying the summer and the extra time with your kids, friends or outdoors.
Either way, you have to make a decision. And then stand by it.
And the beauty of it is: You get to decide again next summer.
Here’s some tapping to help you make that decision:
Even though I want to write and enjoy the summer, I feel so guilty of disappointing myself and all the others, I’m still okay the way I am, and I choose to make a decision now.
Even though it feels bad to say “no” all the time, and yet I feel I’m not getting enough writing done, I’m still okay the way I am, and I now allow myself to choose how I see my writing.
Even though it’s so easy to let writing slip now that it’s summer, and that makes me feel like a bad writer, I’m okay the way I am, and I am open to making a decision for the summer and sticking with it.
What is your decision?
How does it make you feel?
What is your next project?
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